Some girls just seem to have the knack, don’t they? Perhaps that is because they know a thing or two, and if you are having trouble getting a boyfriend you may need to learn some skills to get a boyfriend too. It is not hard; it is just about knowing what to do, when, and how.
You may be the shy type like I was, or you may think that you could not have anything interesting to say and not know where to begin or how to talk with a boy. You may have really liked someone only to have them ignore you or even worse laugh at you because you did not know what to do or say. That can all change once you know how popular girls do it, and it is not hard to learn. Here are a few ideas to get you started in the right direction and you may even be surprised how easy it can be.
Before we get started I just want to cover with you that the reasons that you were unsuccessful in attracting a boyfriend were due to, you not knowing how to attract a guy or keep him and men not being willing to take the time to really get to know you your friends and family love and care for, and you need to realize this before you can make the necessary changes. Don’t beat yourself up over this but just recognize it for what it is.
Being shy is a way of hiding and protecting yourself and only serves to put up a barrier between you and the people around you. While your family and friends know the real you, this shyness can come across as being cold and aloof to a potential boyfriend and most will not go past this first barrier. Most people make up their minds about someone on first impressions and this is the first area you come into problems with.
The good news is that you can overcome this reasonably easily and these areas are the ones you can work on to change how you present yourself:
Your Body Language
What does your body language say to those you meet? If you are in the habit of standing with your arms crossed you are telling others that you want them to keep their distance and you will keep yours. If your non-verbal message is “back-off buster!” this is going to be a big barrier for anyone to try to overcome in getting to know you.
It would be better to practice having your arms and hands by your side or at the least cross them below your waist so that you convey an attitude of being approachable and interested in regards to those around you. It may feel awkward and make you feel vulnerable to begin with but as you practice it repeatedly you will soon do it subconsciously by habit.
Making Eye Contact
Many men are taught from a very early age that it is respectful and shows interest in the other person to look them in the eye when speaking with them. When you do not maintain good eye contact, and this does not mean that you stare non-stop into their eyes, you are telling the man you may be interested in that you are not listening to them and that you are actually not interested. You are conveying by your actions the opposite of what you feel.
Practice maintaining good eye contact in all your conversations, which will feel strange and probably a bit intrusive to start off, but as you do it more often, it will begin to feel natural and you will get a better connection when you are talking with people. It also is a very good habit to develop and before you know it there will be no effort on your part as it will seem to come naturally.
Take a chance and smile more. There is no such thing as an unattractive person when they smile.
A smile not only brightens your face but lights up your whole body and is a powerful attractor making people around you feel safe and warmed. A smile also helps convey confidence, openness, and a sense of trustworthiness, and is something that gives men a reason to give you a second look. The other advantage of smiling more is that it has another odd and perhaps unexpected effect, it makes you feel better about yourself and the world around you, and you begin to feel happier as a result.
These tips will give you the necessary skills to get a boyfriend and once you do, keep him. There are a few more tips for developing your relationship and once you know these you are as equipped as those girls that just have that knack.